Geek mama... saying no... part 2
Unlike my first baby where I was going into things very ignorantly (I would tell people, “oh, hey, if my new baby is chill I’ll do this podcast recording, no problem!” and existing parents would give me knowing looks and be like “…yeah okay Cassidy”), this time around… I know it will be harder than I can imagine.
As a result, I’m finding myself approaching every single project, chore, whatever, with, “will I be able to get this done before the new baby is here?” and if it isn’t a definite yes, it’s a definite no. This has admittedly been a bit of a bummer because I like signing up for new things and trying new ideas, but I just know that my time is limited more than ever, and it will get worse in that regard before it gets better.
That being said, that’s not a terrible thing! I have gotten wildly efficient at decision-making over over-thinking, and have been mentally “preparing the nest” way better than I did the first time around.
I talked about having to say no more than I’d like a little over a year ago, and it’s still hard. I just want to do everything! And I just can’t!
I’m so nervous about baby #2 (and have also written about this already, too), but also excited, and I genuinely can’t wait for the day I can do fun projects with my kids and know that the harder moments will be worth it. I am so happy when I see families with older kids doing road trips, and crafts, and just eating out peacefully, because it gives me a glimpse into the future!
So anyway: don’t ask me to take on a new project right now.
…but please do keep me in mind for later.